by Rich Moreland, May 2019
Talking with Sofie Marie is always a pleasure because she is a mature, professionally-driven adult entertainer who is incredibly sexy.
One of the things that makes Sofie stand out is her affection for the swinging lifestyle. I wanted to find out how that avenue of her sexual lifestyle factors into her porn career.
Let’s see what she has to say.
(All photos are courtesy of Sofie Marie)
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First tell us how you got involved with swinging.
“When I met my now husband, he had to tell me what a swinger was because I had no idea! I was very sheltered,” Sofie begins. The idea of sexually experimenting with other people fascinated her, but she needed a spark to kindle her fire. That came via a video production.
“I saw a hot music video with lots of sexy girls in lingerie running around at a party. I really wanted to go to a party like that, so we did . . . a swinger party, and I was hooked!”
I’ve talked with porn girls who dabble in swinging and they’ve told me about their personal guidelines for the sex they have. Does Sofie have any of her own?
She does. When “playing” with other swingers, be they singles or couples, Sofie says, “I have to have a connection and like the people. I have never been a random sex person, so the personal connection is key.”
Having said that, she points out, “sex for me is just fun!” It becomes emotional when “it’s with my husband.”
And, the statuesque California babe wants it real and sends a message to her play partners. “I prefer bareback sex, so please be fourteen-day STD tested because condoms are the only other way we can play.”
Girls are in Charge
Next, give us an inside look at swinging. What are some of its dynamics?
Sophie explains the scene.
“Girls are one hundred percent in charge in the lifestyle. The men who survive in swinging let the girls drive the program.”
In the end, “bossy men are weeded out pretty quickly” and it’s important that girls should “never take one for the team, as we say,” she adds.
By the way, girls who are interested in other girls proliferate in the lifestyle, so “that is the best ice breaker,” Sophie remarks. Swinging is most rewarding when the girls are “confident in themselves and enjoy the attention.”
To clarify how important that is, Sofie insists that “when you wake up the next morning you should be smiling and basking in the experience of sex, not cringing and wishing it didn’t happen. Never have any regrets!”
Sex in Front of People
Compared with a porn set, what’s it like to have sex in front of an audience?
“It’s harder to be watched by onlookers than a porn crew,” Sofie states. They are “focused on their job and generally detached from the sex they are shooting.”
(Sofie is spot on about this. From personal experience, I can tell you her words apply to industry journalists, as well.)
On the other hand, Sofie comments that “swingers are like kids in a candy store. They are watching for sexual pleasure!”
That suits our MILF hottie just fine, by the way.
“I like having sex in front of people because it’s fun to see them looking at the scene. I wonder what they may be thinking, and sometimes I will ask them to join in the fun!!”
Of course, swinging means having sex with people who don’t necessarily throw their bodies out there for public consumption. What problems might come out of this?
Sofie replies that swinging can present interpersonal challenges that she doesn’t find with porn or camming.
“From swinging, I have had to deal with the awful feelings of jealousy. The dreaded green monster is usually the destruction of most relationships.”
That’s understandable, of course, since Sofie is married.
“From the very beginning of my relationship with my husband, we have discussed the root causes of jealousy,” she explains, and the “insecurity” it fosters.
“By focusing on trust, respect, and honesty in my marriage, I have seen my fears dissipate and my sexual energy increase. I have come to see that any jealously I felt was due to my feelings of adequacy versus the actions of my spouse, so now I love watching him as much as he likes watching me.”
Talking about her husband stimulates her juices. “Wow, I am really wet now!” she says with a broad smile.
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