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Sofie Marie: Part Two, Micro Bikinis and Solo Cams

by Rich Moreland, May 2019

Our talk with Sofie Marie, a sultry MILF who is the very essence of a porn vixen, continues.

(All photos are courtesy of Sofie Marie)

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Camming

Next, we turn to camming. Unlike some porn stars, camming for Sofie Marie was not a portal into shooting adult scenes.

She explains.

“I started camming about two years after I started my website so I could interact with my fans and promote my website. I am a very shy person, but I do love chatting with people, so I have really good time talking on cam.

“I view my camming as great way to support my porn career and let my fans know who I really am as a person. I treasure my personal connection with my cam friends and I look forward to talking with them!”

Considering your three adult activities—swinging, camming, and porn—which one is the easiest to do and which is the hardest?

Believe it or not, porn is the smoothest, Sofie claims.

“It’s much easier for me to get mentally ready to shoot a porn scene than it is to go out swinging. Porn is my career and I take it very seriously,” she says emphatically.

On the other hand, “camming is harder than porn,” she believes, but it has its advantages.

“I love talking to my fans and I have learned so much about fetishes and what they want to see.” Her fans are super cool and offer Sofie support in everything she does.

“They do like it that I am so busy!!  Mostly they like that I do porn or swing, but the guys on cam are the ones asking me about my activities.”

What’s more, camming has a significant upside. “I hope it has made my porn scenes better for my fans,” she says.

A Possible Dud

Sofie chuckles that swinging presents challenges camming does not. “In comparison, swinging is kind of awkward in a funny way since I don’t have a camera to pay attention to while I am getting laid!”

Now there is a conscientious porn star!

Sofie Marie adds that swinging has a downside when it comes to personal satisfaction.

“Swinging can be the sexist thing I do, or it can be a dud. Most of my fantasies in my ‘spank bank’ are from swinging experiences that were super hot and horny! Group sex, threesomes, voyeurism, girl/girl, are some of the scenes that get me off when I am masturbating on cam!”

She reassures us that it’s all good in the end.

“When swinging is a dud, I still get to go home and fuck my husband, so it’s a winner, too!”

The Creation Process

From her personal perspective on adult entertainment, which is more rewarding, camming or porn?

“I like porn the best because I love the creation process and the legacy of the video, especially if it’s a good one!” Sofie declares. “I usually cam solo, so it’s a totally different experience than working with a performer. But I always get to have a bunch of orgasms [with camming], so it’s a fun job for me in that way.”

If you had to drop one of your three sexual adventures, what would stick around in your adult portfolio?

“I would keep porn and camming since they give me [the] most [satisfaction] sexually and emotionally,” Sofie says with conviction.

Micro Bikinis

Finally, what is the most important piece of advice anyone wanting a rewarding adult career like yours should consider?

“Being comfortable in your own skin was key for me,” she declares. “As I have said, I was very shy and body conscious when I was younger.”

Of course, today’s Sofie is a different person.

“I am a nudist now and love micro bikinis. My old bikinis were big enough for us to use them as a sail on a sailboat!” she laughs.

Without doubt, modeling was an important factor in the changes Sofie experienced.

“Becoming a micro bikini model and shooting in public really forced me to get over my self-critical perception of my body. I have had so much positive feedback since I started modeling. I had to start listening to the good compliments over my own self-doubts.”

Once she became “confident in her skin,” as she puts it, the beach beauty remarks that the rest of her adult journey fell into place.

“Having sex in front of the camera and then in front of people was a logical step for me.”

But we can’t forget how important support at home is for any adult performer.

“I have a wonderful marriage built on trust and honesty which gives me the emotional confidence to perform and know that I am loved, unconditionally.”

Well said and thanks, Sofie Marie, for an inside look at a spectacular porn star’s career.

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Take a look at Sofie Marie:

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https://sofiemariexxx.com/

 

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May 23, 2019 · 9:17 am

Sofie Marie: Part One, Girl in Charge

by Rich Moreland, May 2019

Talking with Sofie Marie is always a pleasure because she is a mature, professionally-driven adult entertainer who is incredibly sexy.

One of the things that makes Sofie stand out is her affection for the swinging lifestyle. I wanted to find out how that avenue of her sexual lifestyle factors into her porn career.

Let’s see what she has to say.

(All photos are courtesy of Sofie Marie)

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Sheltered

First tell us how you got involved with swinging.

“When I met my now husband, he had to tell me what a swinger was because I had no idea! I was very sheltered,” Sofie begins. The idea of sexually experimenting with other people fascinated her, but she needed a spark to kindle her fire. That came via a video production.

“I saw a hot music video with lots of sexy girls in lingerie running around at a party. I really wanted to go to a party like that, so we did . . . a swinger party, and I was hooked!”

I’ve talked with porn girls who dabble in swinging and they’ve told me about their personal guidelines for the sex they have. Does Sofie have any of her own?

She does. When “playing” with other swingers, be they singles or couples, Sofie says, “I have to have a connection and like the people. I have never been a random sex person, so the personal connection is key.”

Having said that, she points out, “sex for me is just fun!” It becomes emotional when “it’s with my husband.”

And, the statuesque California babe wants it real and sends a message to her play partners. “I prefer bareback sex, so please be fourteen-day STD tested because condoms are the only other way we can play.”

Girls are in Charge

Next, give us an inside look at swinging. What are some of its dynamics?

Sophie explains the scene.

“Girls are one hundred percent in charge in the lifestyle. The men who survive in swinging let the girls drive the program.”

In the end, “bossy men are weeded out pretty quickly” and it’s important that girls should “never take one for the team, as we say,” she adds.

By the way, girls who are interested in other girls proliferate in the lifestyle, so “that is the best ice breaker,” Sophie remarks. Swinging is most rewarding when the girls are “confident in themselves and enjoy the attention.”

To clarify how important that is, Sofie insists that “when you wake up the next morning you should be smiling and basking in the experience of sex, not cringing and wishing it didn’t happen. Never have any regrets!”

Sex in Front of People

Compared with a porn set, what’s it like to have sex in front of an audience?

“It’s harder to be watched by onlookers than a porn crew,” Sofie states. They are “focused on their job and generally detached from the sex they are shooting.”

(Sofie is spot on about this. From personal experience, I can tell you her words apply to industry journalists, as well.)

On the other hand, Sofie comments that “swingers are like kids in a candy store. They are watching for sexual pleasure!”

That suits our MILF hottie just fine, by the way.

“I like having sex in front of people because it’s fun to see them looking at the scene.  I wonder what they may be thinking, and sometimes I will ask them to join in the fun!!”

Of course, swinging means having sex with people who don’t necessarily throw their bodies out there for public consumption. What problems might come out of this?

Sofie replies that swinging can present interpersonal challenges that she doesn’t find with porn or camming.

“From swinging, I have had to deal with the awful feelings of jealousy. The dreaded green monster is usually the destruction of most relationships.”

That’s understandable, of course, since Sofie is married.

“From the very beginning of my relationship with my husband, we have discussed the root causes of jealousy,” she explains, and the “insecurity” it fosters.

“By focusing on trust, respect, and honesty in my marriage, I have seen my fears dissipate and my sexual energy increase. I have come to see that any jealously I felt was due to my feelings of adequacy versus the actions of my spouse, so now I love watching him as much as he likes watching me.”

Talking about her husband stimulates her juices. “Wow, I am really wet now!” she says with a broad smile.

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https://yummygirl.com/

https://sofiemariexxx.com/

Watch Sofie Marie here.

 

 

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May 22, 2019 · 9:39 am

Sofie Marie, Part Three: Hotwife

by Rich Moreland, April 2018

In this final post on Sofie Marie, we’ll look at her on-screen adventures.

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For Sofie Marie, her swinging history prompted her move to porn. I’ve interviewed other girls with similar experiences as swingers and wanted to know what Sofie could tell us.

A Hall Pass

“I am doing porn because of swinging or ‘the lifestyle’ (as it is known among its adherents). I am a true Hotwife which means I have a hall pass from my husband to go and explore whatever I want to as long as I am one hundred percent open about my plans and experiences with him. He likes to see and hear about my exploits from me and from Spike,” Sofie says.

From what I’ve learned as a journalist, being absolutely open about everything is the cornerstone of acceptance into the swinging community and the ongoing enjoyment of it.

Sofie’s interview with Adult DVD Talk gives us the back story. Her husband introduced his new wife (they’ve only been married for a couple of years) to the swinger community. “He told me about it and I didn’t have any idea what a ‘swinger’ was,” she tells Captain Jack.

Now husband and wife savor the lifestyle together which means parties and the excitement of hooking up in a consensual atmosphere. Sofie has loved it all, especially the variety of sex partners-in-waiting, an unexpected treat for her.

“We’ve met a lot of great people and I have been with girls through that. That’s where it all began as far as fooling around with other girls,” she beams.

That ongoing adventure of self-discovery became an important step in initiating a porn career.

Sexy Young Guys

Sex for the camera is another story.

Sofie’s photography career began with bikini modeling which, as sometimes happens with porn girls, led to nude work. From there, her exhibitionist tendencies and relishing all things sexual nudged Sofie to take the next logical step: her own website and porn.

Sofie explains to Captain Jack that x-rated shooting is “no big deal” because she enjoys exploring her “sexual boundaries” which includes, no surprise, being naked and revealing her “girl parts.”

Has porn benefited Sofie’s free-wheeling spirit? You bet.

“I have gotten really comfortable in front of the camera. So, being nude or having sex is easy for me with the camera rolling,” she says.

“I am really a shy person and exploring my sexuality and now doing porn has been a great experience.”

From a psychological perspective, exhibitionism is a common trait among porn performers and often counteracts shyness. Sofie’s fans are undoubtedly thankful she has made it work for her.

By the way, Sofie’s age would dictate a career as a MILF, but she’s not really into that. When it comes to shooting, “It’s the job for me to play the MILF,” she comments, “but I like playing the Hotwife better.”

Actually, being a MILF took some getting used to, Sofie declares, because she not a mom in her real life, so the label feels a bit “weird” to her. But it does have its rewards. “I get to have sex with the young sexy guys as a MILF so that’s a bonus for me!”

That’s something all her fans can watch with delight as Sofie redefines “cougar!”

Work Sex

There is something about Sofie Marie that separates her out from the run-of-the-mill porn girl. Though I’ve not had the pleasure of being on one of her sets, as I’ve said, I can infer from the short clips I’ve seen that she is cultivating an image that sets her apart from the crowd.

That is a huge reason for her popularity, I believe.

In talking with performers and directors I’ve been reminded that porn sex is not the type of sex civilians (pornspeak for non-industry people) experience in their everyday lives. What is surprising is this: that goes for porn performers as well who are happy to separate film sex from home sex.

Another way of putting it is this: porn sex is acrobatics that involve contortions and positions that directors insist be held minute after minute to get the footage desired.

As you might expect, performers don’t go home in the evening to their significant others and hang from the chandeliers. Work sex is a business and exhausting enough as it is.

Social scientists and educators tell us that porn, with all its outre positions and hard banging, has become the new sex education for today’s young people.

Sometimes it’s difficult for them to understand that sex is supposed to be enjoyable, intimate, and a mutually shared experience. It doesn’t need to be nasty, rough, or vulgar and doesn’t have to be dominated by deep throating, gagging, choking, tears that smear mascara, and reverse cowgirls (the most graphic position for the camera).

Here is what I mean. Watch Sofie in a girl-on-boy oral scene, for example, and compare her with popular porn performers today. The difference is noteworthy.

Her on-screen sex is instinctive and unpretentious. Without doubt, this is Sofie Marie’s tour de force and why she is destined to luxuriate in the adult industry for as long as she wants. When she proclaims she projects the girl-next-door image, Sofie isn’t kidding or trying to sell her fans a bill of goods. She really is as she appears on-screen and that, in a business that is turning more and more to the bizarre to keep fans energized, is in itself remarkable.

Think of it this way, Sofie communicates her sexuality without saying, “Hey, look at me!” Her scenes are less about her and more about personalizing the sexual experience for the camera. The more natural she is, the easier it becomes for viewers to imagine themselves in the shoot with her.

As I’ve already hinted, Sofie Marie’s shoots explore sex as a spontaneous expression. In other words she reinforces the idea that sexuality as meaningful on a human level. It’s not a superhero cartoon or the perils of Pauline. It’s just us.

There’s no drool, spit, or slobbering when she is performing orally. Dirty talk is subdued, and, she completely turns the porn formula on its head when she fails (forgets?) to point her toes. Those things are not important in her shoots because they are not her. As Sofie keeps telling us, she’s natural . . . and she is a natural.

I could be wrong and if I ever see her in action on set in a way that disputes what I’ve said here, I’ll let you know.

Consent

Not surprisingly, consent is important to Sofie.

“So far I have been treated with respect one hundred percent of the time. I expect nothing else from this industry or I will not shoot with a company who does not respect my time and boundaries,” she proclaims.

For girls to accomplish what Sofie asserts, they must take control of their image just as this statuesque beauty clearly demonstrates in her work. That is a link to feminism she may not know she possesses.

Balancing Act

Finally, I had a couple of questions for Sofie that arose from personal interest. She and I are similar in two ways.

First, I was raised in a conservative evangelical home (Southern Baptist) and didn’t know much about sex growing up other than it was sinful outside of marriage.

I don’t know if Sofie’s childhood attitudes were the same, but she had this to say about her background.

“I, too, was raised in a very religious household and I still maintain my spiritual connection to my faith. But I have come to realize that I am a consenting adult and the people I perform with are adults as well and we are not hurting anyone by having sex.”

She concludes with, “I always try to be kind to others.” A lesson we could all share. Are you listening evangelicals?

The other area Sofie and I have in common is endurance sports, specifically triathlon and marathons. The training is grueling and fatiguing and I can’t imagine having sex on camera in addition to that.

So how does she balance everything out?

“My last Ironman was 2016 so my training has been easier for the past year. My husband and I train together, so when we get our schedules synced, we will likely do another one. But my focus is my career now.

“Yes, it’s hard to a balance business and training . . . business is first for now. I do workout with weights and cardio six times a week, just not as long as when I was training for my Ironman!”

We wish her well with all her loves: racing, on-camera sex, and of course, hubby!

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A final note. Sofie Marie did not talk about her fetish performances because regretfully I didn’t ask.

So, for the followers of this blog who like BDSM, I want to assure you Sofie is not shy when the fetish comes her way.

Take a look here:

And here:

Be sure to follow Sofie’s fetish adventures with your bondage dollars!

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